Please, Do Not Speak

Stemming off my earlier post about wanting what I want, i'd like to share a situation that DID work without me compromising anything. For better or worse, we were on the same page....

I met this guy on Tinder, my source for most of my dates over this past year. We chatted for a couple weeks, then decided to go out.

I'm not going to waste too much time describing him. All you need to know is that he was a pretentious asshole and talked too loud. Naturally, I went home with him after our first date :P He was attractive, we both wanted it, and I wasn't over-thinking it. Internally, that voice was telling me, "don't go home with him, you'll never see him again and it's not how you play the game." But honestly, I didn't care. I wanted to go home with him. That was what I honestly wanted.

We had absolutely nothing in common. Different social behavior, political views, hobbies, thoughts the list goes on and on. What we did have, was CHEMISTRY. Holy moly.

Our completely lack of interest and respect for each other transformed into a wonderful booty call relationship.

I'd text him, he'd come over, we'd have an amazing hookup, make small talk about movies, then when I couldn't listen to him speak anymore, i'd get dressed and he would leave. I had never had this kind of situation before, but it was so perfect. I was fulfilling my pure physical needs and never once questioned what he was thinking or looking for.

This situation was obviously unique because I had no interest in actually dating this guy. But he also had no interest in dating me. We were able to find something that worked for both of us. I share this with you because i'm not naive and thinking that every date with a guy needs to turn into something. What I loved about this, was that I was able to accept that he didn't want me and I didn't want him. I didn't feel like I needed to prove myself to him and convince him to be anything more than what we were. I was able to be secure in what I wanted, as simple as that was, and it was so refreshing.

I appreciate looking back at our arrangement because it reminds me that I can get what I want when i'm honest. It was exactly what I needed at the time, and I don't regret any piece of it.

I'm going to end on a comical note, because this legitimately happened once after we had sex. He high-fived me and said "great teamwork." Cheers.